Starting at around 9 months, Max started with the infamous toddler hitting. I think it is a completely normal way of testing boundaries and judging reactions. What happens when I hit mommy?
I have been trying to redirect him, so when he hits, or bites, or kicks (man, I make him sound like a horrid child...it's normal I swear! Right?) I have made him stroke my face and said Gentle, Max, Gentle.
This morning, as I was getting Max ready for School (or Cool in his baby language) he was absentmindedly smacking my leg. I didn't even bother to redirect, I just casually said, "Max Be Nice"
"Gentle" He said it so clearly as he started softly stroking my leg (much better than smacking) It was so cute, and he did it over and over again, obviously pleased with my excited reaction.
Now we just need to work on "Massage" as I teach him to rub Mommy's back or "Fetch" as I send him to get something....who knew I would be better at baby training than dog training?
Always,
Jesi
Showing posts with label Actions. Show all posts
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Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Monday, November 24, 2008
Everything Always Works Out
It's Robs favorite saying.
Thursday night, after an arduous decision process that included me acting like a meany head for more than a few moments, Rob decided NOT to go to the Moore Police Department tryout.
To be honest, I was disappointed that he didn't go give it a shot. But he was firm in feeling like it wasn't the right job or the right time. His current company has offered him a raise and a 6AM-3PM schedule. He is very focused on completing his degree and after spending so much time away from us he isn't too keen on jumping into a new and very crazy schedule just yet.
Being the loverly wife that I am I gave up the fight and decided to do what God wants me to do.
Trust my husband, trust his leadership for our family and believe that God will provide for us in the way that He knows best.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! We still needed them and we still do!
Much Love and Happy Pre-Thanksgiving!
Always,
Jesi
Thursday night, after an arduous decision process that included me acting like a meany head for more than a few moments, Rob decided NOT to go to the Moore Police Department tryout.
To be honest, I was disappointed that he didn't go give it a shot. But he was firm in feeling like it wasn't the right job or the right time. His current company has offered him a raise and a 6AM-3PM schedule. He is very focused on completing his degree and after spending so much time away from us he isn't too keen on jumping into a new and very crazy schedule just yet.
Being the loverly wife that I am I gave up the fight and decided to do what God wants me to do.
Trust my husband, trust his leadership for our family and believe that God will provide for us in the way that He knows best.
Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers! We still needed them and we still do!
Much Love and Happy Pre-Thanksgiving!
Always,
Jesi
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Life Takes Over
When I am running around getting ready in the morning and I never pray...Life takes over. I smile at Rob as he helps me, packing the bags, making me lunch, kissing me goodbye through the car window. Waking up before he has to. Life takes over.
When I get in the car and I think about everything I have to do. I drop off Max, I avoid him crying as I leave. I get to work, rushing in a few minutes late. I check my emails, check the blogs, and check my favorite websites. I reply to customers, I check voicemails; I deal with crazy brides who make me want to pull my hair out.
Life Takes Over.
I leave as soon as I can. I relish in Max seeing me as I pick him up. I kiss his face and hug him tight, I pack his bags and we head home. Or to church, or to BABES, or to dinner with family or friends...but mostly home and Life takes over.
We eat, we play, and we take a bath. We see each other, we laugh, and we do the things that families do in the weeknights of fall. We take our family walk/jog. We retire to the couch, or the computer, or the video game, or to each other.
My life is taking over my time with God. Again. Haven’t I been here many times before? Stumbled away one slow step, one slow fade from brilliant to tarnished? One small choice of how I spend my time, what I do, who I am, who I want to be.
Life takes over so easily. I love my life, oh how I love every moment in those days. I love seeing my husbands face in the morning. I love hugging my sweet baby before the morning light awakens us. I love running around like a crazy woman, taking on way too much but relishing in the frenetic energy my crazy life creates.
Even though I love it all, I love my God more.
God Take Over.
When I get in the car and I think about everything I have to do. I drop off Max, I avoid him crying as I leave. I get to work, rushing in a few minutes late. I check my emails, check the blogs, and check my favorite websites. I reply to customers, I check voicemails; I deal with crazy brides who make me want to pull my hair out.
Life Takes Over.
I leave as soon as I can. I relish in Max seeing me as I pick him up. I kiss his face and hug him tight, I pack his bags and we head home. Or to church, or to BABES, or to dinner with family or friends...but mostly home and Life takes over.
We eat, we play, and we take a bath. We see each other, we laugh, and we do the things that families do in the weeknights of fall. We take our family walk/jog. We retire to the couch, or the computer, or the video game, or to each other.
My life is taking over my time with God. Again. Haven’t I been here many times before? Stumbled away one slow step, one slow fade from brilliant to tarnished? One small choice of how I spend my time, what I do, who I am, who I want to be.
Life takes over so easily. I love my life, oh how I love every moment in those days. I love seeing my husbands face in the morning. I love hugging my sweet baby before the morning light awakens us. I love running around like a crazy woman, taking on way too much but relishing in the frenetic energy my crazy life creates.
Even though I love it all, I love my God more.
God Take Over.
Friday, October 17, 2008
Ideas
Sometimes I wonder why God wired my brain in such an artsy fartsy way...I like to blame my dual personalities and moods on being a Gemini...but I don’t believe in horoscopes so that is out.
Then I like to ponder if it is related to my youth as an only child. After all, without the surrounding of rambunctious siblings I learned to play pretend, make up extravagant imaginary stories and entertain myself for hours.
And it never bothered me. Although I love the 7 brothers that have been gifted to me through my parent’s remarriages, I never minded it either way. Plunk me in a sibling circle or alone in my room and I could get along just fine.
I know that God hardwired my brain with every ounce of ideaism and creativity for His purpose and in case you are new here, I still have no idea what that means. But I’m learning.
It’s funny because our pastors wife said the same thing at the Beautiful Conference the other day...she is so creative that her mind can take her in a million directions, even very far down the path of just one idea before she even blinks again. For her it became a testimony of the power of her thoughts, when she had to learn to turn off the creativity when it started to spin into dark, negative thoughts about the what if’s in life.
For me, it has become a daily practice in discerning what is merely a passing thought or a little bling! wand touch on the head with an idea. Like last night, when I picked up cupcakes for Max’s birthday, and thought about how we don’t have any cupcake stores in Edmond or the OKC metro area (a la Sprinkles for you big city folks) and how I could start a business making cupcakes! Surely it would be successful, and minutes later I had named it, decorated my storefront and had a list running through my mind of all the cute cupcakes I could make and sell...I even dreamed about it last night!
My poor husband gets the bulk of these ideas thrown at him...the best thing is he thinks I could succeed at any of them. He just wants me to pick one and actually do it!
Where does this crazy brain come from? God. Why did he wire me to be so free flowing, creative, crazy, and dream oriented? Not sure yet.
But it’s sure fun to dream...and I’ll let you know when I open my cupcake store.
Always,
Jesi
Then I like to ponder if it is related to my youth as an only child. After all, without the surrounding of rambunctious siblings I learned to play pretend, make up extravagant imaginary stories and entertain myself for hours.
And it never bothered me. Although I love the 7 brothers that have been gifted to me through my parent’s remarriages, I never minded it either way. Plunk me in a sibling circle or alone in my room and I could get along just fine.
I know that God hardwired my brain with every ounce of ideaism and creativity for His purpose and in case you are new here, I still have no idea what that means. But I’m learning.
It’s funny because our pastors wife said the same thing at the Beautiful Conference the other day...she is so creative that her mind can take her in a million directions, even very far down the path of just one idea before she even blinks again. For her it became a testimony of the power of her thoughts, when she had to learn to turn off the creativity when it started to spin into dark, negative thoughts about the what if’s in life.
For me, it has become a daily practice in discerning what is merely a passing thought or a little bling! wand touch on the head with an idea. Like last night, when I picked up cupcakes for Max’s birthday, and thought about how we don’t have any cupcake stores in Edmond or the OKC metro area (a la Sprinkles for you big city folks) and how I could start a business making cupcakes! Surely it would be successful, and minutes later I had named it, decorated my storefront and had a list running through my mind of all the cute cupcakes I could make and sell...I even dreamed about it last night!
My poor husband gets the bulk of these ideas thrown at him...the best thing is he thinks I could succeed at any of them. He just wants me to pick one and actually do it!
Where does this crazy brain come from? God. Why did he wire me to be so free flowing, creative, crazy, and dream oriented? Not sure yet.
But it’s sure fun to dream...and I’ll let you know when I open my cupcake store.
Always,
Jesi
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Lessons in Leadership-October
Some of you may know that I get the pleasure of serving as the President of the Pink L.A.D.I.E.S. of Delta Zeta Alumnae Chapter. It is so much fun and I get to spend time with my sisters from college every month. We do community service, participate in things like the Breast Cancer Walk, Raise money for Speech and Hearing and spends lots of time talking, eating and sipping cocktails.
I started a new thing called Lessons on Leadership for the members. Each month I will send them a blurb on Leadership as that is what the L in L.A.D.I.E.S. stands for. This month we are talking about modeling leadership through casual interactions. Here a few steps that I hope will help you think about who you are leading through your own interactions.
Modeling leadership through casual interactions
1. Determine your sphere of influence
Each of us has a large and specific sphere of influence. You might influence the people you work with, who work under you, next to you and even above you. Your actions do affect others. In Delta Zeta you influence those younger than you, your friends, the people that you work with on committees, in chairs and offices. In life you also influence your friends, your family, your siblings and even those that you interact with in casual interactions. By recognizing the scope of your sphere of influence I hope you will understand how important it is that we model leadership.
2. Decide how you want to lead your sphere of influence
You have to make the decision how you want to influence your sphere. Do you want them to be influenced to be leaders themselves? To follow? Determine how you want to lead those and it should determine your actions. Personally I want to lead those in my sphere to rely on their internal moral compass to guide positive and appropriate interactions that benefit themselves and those around them.
3. Draw Boundaries to protect your influence
In some situations you must draw boundaries in your influence. If you want to influence your little sister to be a positive, confident woman who doesnt need a boy to make her happy you have to model that for her. Negative self talk or acting hopeless about your love life doesnt model that to her. So you would need to draw a boundary that you don't talk down on yourself in front of her. Those in your sphere of influence will follow what you DO, not what you say. In Delta Zeta, if you want to influence the girls younger than you you must MODEL how a Delta Zeta acts. You have to ACT that way, not just SAY those things.
4. Model Leadership through your own actions
Your actions speak the most about you. When things dont go your way, how do you react? When you are really upset, how you do react? When you are angry with someone, how do you react? These are the things that people will model, so watch your actions. In order to improve and lead your sphere of influence you must be CONSTANTLY aware of your actions. They do influence others and it is a ripple effect. What you do today could affect a situation months, or even years later because someone in your sphere in modeling you.
I hope this encourages you today to think about WHO is in your sphere and HOW you want to model leadership to them!
Always,
I started a new thing called Lessons on Leadership for the members. Each month I will send them a blurb on Leadership as that is what the L in L.A.D.I.E.S. stands for. This month we are talking about modeling leadership through casual interactions. Here a few steps that I hope will help you think about who you are leading through your own interactions.
Modeling leadership through casual interactions
1. Determine your sphere of influence
Each of us has a large and specific sphere of influence. You might influence the people you work with, who work under you, next to you and even above you. Your actions do affect others. In Delta Zeta you influence those younger than you, your friends, the people that you work with on committees, in chairs and offices. In life you also influence your friends, your family, your siblings and even those that you interact with in casual interactions. By recognizing the scope of your sphere of influence I hope you will understand how important it is that we model leadership.
2. Decide how you want to lead your sphere of influence
You have to make the decision how you want to influence your sphere. Do you want them to be influenced to be leaders themselves? To follow? Determine how you want to lead those and it should determine your actions. Personally I want to lead those in my sphere to rely on their internal moral compass to guide positive and appropriate interactions that benefit themselves and those around them.
3. Draw Boundaries to protect your influence
In some situations you must draw boundaries in your influence. If you want to influence your little sister to be a positive, confident woman who doesnt need a boy to make her happy you have to model that for her. Negative self talk or acting hopeless about your love life doesnt model that to her. So you would need to draw a boundary that you don't talk down on yourself in front of her. Those in your sphere of influence will follow what you DO, not what you say. In Delta Zeta, if you want to influence the girls younger than you you must MODEL how a Delta Zeta acts. You have to ACT that way, not just SAY those things.
4. Model Leadership through your own actions
Your actions speak the most about you. When things dont go your way, how do you react? When you are really upset, how you do react? When you are angry with someone, how do you react? These are the things that people will model, so watch your actions. In order to improve and lead your sphere of influence you must be CONSTANTLY aware of your actions. They do influence others and it is a ripple effect. What you do today could affect a situation months, or even years later because someone in your sphere in modeling you.
I hope this encourages you today to think about WHO is in your sphere and HOW you want to model leadership to them!
Always,
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